Spiritual Development

  • ACIM Lesson 79 – Let me recognize the problem so it can be solved.

    After reading A Course in Miracles Lesson 79 to my WhatsApp group, I did as instructed and asked, “Spirit, what is the one problem?” And this was His reply:

    “You feel guilty because you think you have separated from God and you’re sad about that. Your deep feeling of sadness is ultimately based on that, and all your life “lessons” in this life have been based around separation and abandonment. If you consider all your sadness and relationships, it is those that have caused your feelings of rejection, abandonment and sadness.

    These worldly problems have all been set up to offer you a healing opportunity. Being left at boarding school at a young age was deliberately a big lesson, and all the others followed until you realized you had to simply forgive them (the people and events). And when you realized that you have NEVER separated from God and are not alone, you have just been FEELING that because all of the people in this lifetime “left” you (each in a different way).

    Forgive these people (your brothers and sisters) because they contracted with you to act out in this Script for you to learn this major lesson in your evolvement. People you sincerely trusted: your parents, your sister, your husband, your best friend Maureen, your best friend Susan, your teenage friend Keith who’s blocked you on Facebook (ha ha!), your children when they moved to the other side of the world, and your various boyfriends.

    Note that none of these abandonments was through hatred of you. Your teacher, Ascended Master Maitreya taught you, “not to take things personally”, which is at the bottom of your list of Ten Spiritual Laws, and as it has served you well, you teach this to others.

    Indeed, your parents loved you, your sister loves you, your husband loved you, Maureen and Susan loved you, Keith doesn’t know it because he is full of fear, but he loves you. He certainly doesn’t hate you; they are simply afraid of your openness with your spirituality.

    Your children love you and all those boyfriends loved you – indeed not one told you he didn’t. They all had their reasons for not remaining with you – all different and many.”

    Me: “OK, thank you Spirit, so what is the answer?”

    “Forgiveness.

    Forgiveness heals because you have recognized, at last, that you have not and never will be separate from God.

    Forgiveness heals because you have realized that the world is an illusion, a dream in which you can choose to remain stuck in your worldly beliefs or you can release yourself, and be free and at peace.

    Forgiveness heals because you now know you are not guilty of anything, because you have truly not sinned.

    In God there is only Love.

    Forgiveness heals because you know you are not actually here, you are dreaming this life just as you dream at night, and you are awakened to the fact that you are acting out a Script (your Script) to learn this lesson of abandonment.

    Forgiveness heals because Holy Spirit knows what’s in your heart, He knows what is in your mind, your thoughts, and that your intention is to let go, to love all and wake up to the knowledge you are in God, with God, in Love and never were anything BUT Love,

    Continue practising Forgiveness for all minor upsets and use it to finally clear and heal all the major upsets in your Script (this lifetime).

    Well done for telling your sister you wouldn’t do her Tai Chi class next term because you wouldn’t have had the courage to voice that previously because you’d have been worried about how she would react.

    You have also recently learned, and put into practice, not only “speaking your truth” but also recognizing that how others respond to anything you tell them is NOT your responsibility, but theirs.

    Well done.”

    Me: “Thank you Spirit!”

    If you’d like to join my WhatsApp group in which I am reading ACIM’s daily Workbook Lessons, please use the Contact Page – also to ask me any questions you have about this blog, forgiveness or A Course in Miracles, thank you.

    With love as ever,

    Jacquie

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  • Love holds no grievances

    Spiritual tools

    When I find myself in an awkward situation, or having an upsetting conversation with family or a friend, before reacting with my knee-jerk human emotional response of annoyance or frustration, I catch myself and ask, “What would Jesus do now?”

    The Jesus I’m referring to is the Jesus of my childhood, the really nice man who did kind things in The Bible’s New Testament. (I always thought Jesus was an old man when I was little, but he passed away in his 30s!) I was raised as a Christian and attended weekly church services from the age of 7 to 14 years old – I expect some of you can relate to this type of Christian upbringing. I had to go because I was at boarding school, although in the holidays and when I became a “day girl” and permanently lived at home again, I only went to church at Easter and Christmas with my parents, although I went to a Christian youth group called S.N.A.T.E. (Sunday Night At Eight!) principally to meet boys!

    However, I liked Jesus as a child and now I love him as a student of A Course in Miracles, which He dictated to His  channel, Helen Schucman in the 1960s – so I’ve gone full circle and am back with Jesus again! Ain’t life strange?! Well, it was obviously meant to be.

    For me, God and Jesus are synonymous with Love. God is Love, and therefore Jesus is Love too. And Love holds no grievances. When I connect to my innate Love I feel at peace and joyous, and feel nothing to do with grievances, anger or any sense of loss or separation.

    I love Ascended Master Maitreya too, and studying with His amazing channel Margaret McElroy in 2003-2005, I learnt so much and still use His wisdom in my life and work today. In this article, I’d like to share with you some of the thought processes I’ve used on my journey of re-awakening to Love and learning to forgive and release grievances.

    I’ve used this collection of affirmations on many occasions, and I hope you might find them useful too:

    “I let go of my past, I let go of my worries, I am positive about my future.”

    Affirmations need to be said (and repeated many times) in the present tense, as if the thing you want to change in your sub-conscious mind has already happened.

    “I move forward positively.”

    “I love and forgive everyone, including myself, so that I heal my past wounds and become at peaceful in this lifetime.”

    “I release all feelings of regret, resentment and anger.”

    “I am patient and I practice forgiveness at every opportunity” – although practising forgiveness after the event and for childhood events works perfectly well. This is Quantum or Radical Forgiveness, rather than worldly forgiveness in which we blame ourselves or someone else for doing wrong.

    “I let go of all my conditioning hidden in my sub-conscious mind, so my transformation is amazing and I become a pure channel for Spirit.”

    “I connect to Love, to Spirit, as often as I can so it becomes habitual.”

    LOVE IS ALL THERE IS.

    LOVE HOLDS NO GRIEVANCES.

    An example might be:- “I forgive my relatives for upsetting me although I know they’re mirroring what is in my sub-conscious mind, so I forgive myself too.” It’s usually our nearest and dearest who give us healing opportunities!

    I always end my affirmations and my chats with Spirit with a simple: “Thank you Spirit!” And that simple “thanks” always makes me smile – and THAT’S what I call a miracle!

    Have fun with it. This work isn’t meant to be hard, it’s only US that makes it hard. Spirit is always laughing! Maitreya taught me that.

    Feel free to leave a comment  below or send me a message on my Contact Page if you’d like to.

    With love, as ever

    Jacquie

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  • Is this world a dream?

    Are we dreaming this world? Are we human beings or are we spiritual beings having a physical experience?

    To wake up to Who We Truly Are usually takes us many years because we’re so accustomed to being human. From the day we were born we’ve been having physical feelings – hunger, crying, cuddles from our parents, being breast-fed by our mothers – all very tangible.

    But as you’re reading this, I think I can safely assume you have been wondering if being human isn’t all there is to life, and that you’ve been asking yourself and other people questions about the meaning of life, what your purpose is, and that you’ve been trying to understand what death and reincarnation really is all about. I certainly have!

    I started asking these questions in my 20s, but was distracted for a decade or so bringing up my children and working full-time, but one of the first books I bought in the mid 1990s was “The Truth In The Light – an investigation of over 300 Near-Death Experiences”, by Peter and Elizabeth Fenwick. Peter was President of the British branch of the International Association for Near-Death Studies which was fascinating.

    I’ve always been open-minded, which has stood me in good stead, and I’ve never simply accepted what teachers or authors have told me or written without fully understanding and knowing for myself what was true for me – ie what my Truth is.

    I’m sure you can share your journey of discover about how you first started off looking for your Truth – when did you first start asking questions, and where has your path taken you? Do leave a comment below if you would like to share your story.

    “The Truth In The Light” refers to “The Tibetan Book of the Living and Dying”, by Sogyal Rinpoche, who likens the Buddhist view of dying to a near-death experience, which is another book well worth reading.

    Recently I watched a 2018 interview with David Icke on TalkRadio, a London radio station which has a YouTube channel, and when asked what started him off on his spiritual quest, David said it was when he came across a book called “Mind to Mind” by Betty Shine in the late 1980s. I came across it in the 1990s and it was a fascinating and  brilliant introduction to using our minds. Betty was ahead of her time – she also wrote “Mind Magic” and “Mind Waves”, and David was lucky enough to visit Betty Shine for a reading and healing. Since then, David said he feels “a presence” that I know to be Spirit, although he doesn’t name it – he just says he feels a consciousness and that he follows his intuition.

    So, is this a dream? Yes I believe so. I know I’m spirit and although I think I have “my” mind, we actually share One Mind and I’m here now in human form on the Earth plane to have the opportunity to heal my mind by learning the lessons from both my childhood and those buried in my subconscious brought in from former lifetimes. The lessons which emerged for me, triggered in the mid 2000s by a major separation from my children, were separation and abandonment issues. I’ve now mainly healed them, but am still tested to a lesser degree when people leave or a relationship breaks down. My metaphysics teacher, Margaret McElroy taught me that we would continue to be tested until we had fully healed, or learned that lesson.

    But I know now that I am never separate from God, from our Source, from Love, and our One Mind. Plus I’ve learned how to hear and communicate with Spirit, so I never feel alone. That’s not to say I don’t miss the company of other people during Lockdown! And that’s because I’m having a human experience, as Jacquie in this incarnation, and touch and laughing with friends is important to me – I’m an extrovert as I have Leo ascending!

    So, yes I’m dreaming my human experience but I’m making the most of it and my time on Earth to heal. I do that by remembering Who I Really Am and by practising forgiveness. Knowing that the world is an illusion doesn’t mean we can’t appreciate it, and seeing it through the eyes of Love makes it a peaceful and joyous place to be – for now!

    With love, as ever

    Jacquie

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  • YOU are your OWN Healer

    Jacquie Verbeek

    Christmas is nearly upon us – it comes round every year! And although it is a happy occasion for many, it can also bring up lots of deep and unaddressed emotions and can be a lonely time of the year when normal routine ceases and many find themselves at home alone, and will do this year because of the world-wide pandemic.

    People who are experiencing anxiety, who are distressed or depressed need to take control of their minds, and I would like to share some techniques to do so in this article, which will lead to your own healing.

    Maitreya called the place where bad thoughts come from our chattering mind, where the lower self abides; Buddhists call it the monkey mind; and others refer to it as the Ego mind or Ego belief system – whatever you call it, whatever it’s called is irrelevant – it’s the negative part of our thought system that goes on and on and on making us doubtful, distressed, anxious, endlessly worried and depressed.

    • Stop caring about “what other people think of you”. It doesn’t matter two hoots (as my mother used to say!) what anybody else thinks of you and your behaviour. A friend of mine says she has to get out of bed before 9am to open her curtains because she’s worried about her neighbours thinking less of her.
    • But they’re probably thinking, “lucky woman to be able to have a lie in today!” We never know what someone else is thinking, so please don’t waste YOUR time worrying about it and usually making up elaborate stories about what they might be thinking! What a “waste of your energy”, as Margaret* used to say!
    • Focus on what makes you happy and do these things on a regular basis… do you like to dance? Yes? So dance in your kitchen (kitchen floors are often the best for Twisting!) If you enjoy reading, writing, drawing, walking by the sea or in Nature – do it! What are you waiting for? Enjoy yourself!
    • Stop waiting for your partner to treat you properly – or worse make you happy. Ask them for what you want. Don’t expect them to be able to read your mind just because you live together. Although it is up to YOU to find your own inner happiness, not your loved ones.
    • Ask yourself if your relationship is based on its “potential” or “the reality”? If you’re forever waiting for your partner to treat you properly – they probably never will if they’re not now, and not unless YOU ask them to do certain things for you.
    • There’s no reason not to care for someone, of course, but try and stop making excuses for why your partner is not loving you properly. If you’re not happy and know in your heart that things won’t change, leave.
    • To calm your chattering mind, take up a spiritual practice or discipline so you have a daily reminder to focus on your spiritual side.
    • Set up a Morning Practice of Meditation, Prayer, Yoga, Tai Chi, chanting and most importantly keeping a Journal.
    • Study a spiritual book like A Course in Miracles – it has a Workbook of 365 lessons which you could start on 1st January 2021. I do it every year and it gets better and better each year as my perception changes.
    • Do the exercises in Louise Hay’s book, You Can Heal Your Life, with a view to keeping your mind (thoughts) and body healthy.
    • Plan to do a Spiritual Development course or workshop in 2021 – please see my website for details of mine courses, based on Maitreya’s teachings.
    • Buy yourself a Gratitude Journal or Self Care Playbook from The Happi Empire – created by Frances, a student of Margaret’s and Maitreya.

    You are your own healer. It’s up to each one of us to take control and be responsible for our own minds, our own thoughts.

    If you find yourself in an anxious state, distressed or depressed, grieving, etc, please try not to let yourself spiral down a dark hole. I did that and it became a nightmare and a very difficult place to climb out of. Instead, talk to Spirit, ask your Spirit Guide, Guardian Angel or Holy Spirit to give you guidance. Have an Astrology reading – I can recommend a brilliant intuitive Astrologer.

    Always stay in touch with someone who cares, please don’t isolate yourself, which I also did. Talking to a someone is a good way to start talking about your crazy thoughts – and please know that it is quite normal to have crazy thoughts, and also to have suicidal ideations. You are NOT alone.

    And most importantly, as Ascended Master Maitreya taught me,”DON’T TAKE THINGS PERSONALLY” – and I will add DON’T TAKE YOUR OWN THOUGHTS PERSONALLY! Our thoughts can lie to us when they come from our lower self, our ego mind.

    If you have any comments or thoughts, please do get in touch.

    With love, as ever

    Jacquie

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  • What is Forgiveness? From A Course in Miracles.

    From Part II of The Workbook of A Course in Miracles published by Foundation for Inner Peace

    What is Forgiveness? Page 401

    Para 1 –

    1. Forgiveness recognizes what you thought your brother did to you has not occurred.
    2. It does not pardon sins and make them real
    3. It sees there was no sin.
    4. And in that view are all your sins forgiven.
    5. What is sin, except a false idea about God’s Son? (ie each one of us)
    6. Forgiveness merely sees its falsity, and therefore lets it go.
    7. What then is free to take its place is now the Will of God.

    Para 2 –

    1. An unforgiving thought is one which makes a judgment that I will not raise to doubt, although it is not true.
    2. The mind is closed, and will not be released.
    3. The thought protects projection, tightening its chains, so that distortions are more veiled, and more obscure; less easily accessible to doubt, and further kept from reason.
    4. What can come between a fixed projection and the aim that it has chosen as its wanted goal?

    Para 3 –

    1. An unforgiving thought does many things.
    2. In frantic action it pursues its goal, twisting and overturning what it sees as interfering with its chosen path.
    3. Distortion is its purpose, and the means by which it would accomplish it as well.
    4. It sets about its furious attempts to smash reality, without concern for anything that would appear to pose a contradiction to its point of view.

    Para 4 –

    1. Forgiveness, on the other hand, is still, and quietly does nothing.
    2. It offends no aspect of reality, nor seeks to twist it to appearance it likes.
    3. It merely looks, and waits, and judges not.
    4. He who would not forgive must judge, for he must justify his failure to forgive.
    5. But he who would forgive himself must learn to welcome truth exactly as it is.

    Para 5 –

    1. Do nothing, then, and let forgiveness show you what to do, through Him Who is your Guide, your Saviour and Protector, strong in hope, and certain of your ultimate success.
    2. He has forgiven you already, for such is His function, given Him by God.
    3. Now must you share His function, and forgive whom He has saved, whose sinlessness He sees, and whom He honours as the Son of God. (ie All of us!)

    I practice Forgiveness throughout my day and it has changed my life. It healed my mind when I was living in fear (known as depression and anxiety in the world). Forgiveness healed my childhood trauma of abandonment and rejection, and therefore the fear of being alone.

    If you want to know how to practice Forgiveness or have any questions about this essay from A Course in Miracles and would like further explanation, eg the very first point, please do get in touch.

    With love, as ever

    Jacquie

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  • How we self-sabotage our spiritual practices

    How often have you been getting along nicely with your spiritual reading and practice when you get interrupted? It might be by something as simple as a bad cold and you feel rough for a few days, so you take time out to have a “duvet day” because you feel poorly and don’t want to do anything except watch daytime TV and eat chocolate to console yourself!

    Or it might be something more time-consuming such as a trip away or having a friend to stay so your routine gets disrupted and you almost forget that you had this good thing going prior to their visit!

    Or worse, you might get made redundant, or have a relationship breakdown, or have a challenging situation with a family member. You get completely thrown off track and your spiritual progress gets put back or worse – ignored!

    It might be that one of your major life lessons comes up to the surface for healing and that can also stop us in our tracks – it’s not always the ego, it can be a previous trauma coming up to be healed which may seem horrific at the time, but if you can forgive and release these emotional traumas you will be able to breakthrough and heal them – but they can, of course, throw us off track from our good spiritual practices.

    Our egos love to trip us up and will find many ways to do so – this is how we self-sabotage! It can be very much “three steps forward and two steps back”.

    Self-sabotaging is what we also tend to do on a low-key daily basis – we allow ourselves to be distracted from focusing on our thoughts because we want to go out shopping, meet a friend or watch TV. Socialising and relaxation are essential of course, but if we allow ourselves to become so busy being “human doings” instead of human beings, it will be your ego’s way of distracting you from your beneficial spiritual practice. Our egos will also distract us from leading a healthy lifestyle or a disciplined exercise routine. The ego will do anything and everything it can to keep us from progressing – it continually self-sabotages us, so be on your guard!

    The solution

    Start listening to your thoughts. Learn to not only listen but to distinguish your ego thoughts from your intuitive thoughts – these comes direct from Spirit and will always take you on the right and happiest path. Whereas our distracting, negative and anxious thoughts are ego-driven – they’re lies! Lies and damn lies! Thoughts that make you feel angry, resentful and upset in any way – including anxious thoughts – are of the ego. On the other hand, our intuitive thoughts are peaceful, happy and light-hearted. You can actually feel the difference in your body.

    Have a go. It’s fun! And don’t beat yourself up if you think, “I can’t do it”, because THAT’S a lying ego thought. If you want to receive intuitive guidance, you will succeed. It’s how I was taught by Maitreya, so if I can do it so can you!

    Say “No” to self-sabotage today!

    With love, as ever

    Jacquie

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  • We never really die!

    We don’t die – we simply pass away from this lifetime. Death is simply a passing from this life to the world of Spirit. Those of us left behind in the world are the sad ones, mourning the loss of our loved ones, but they will have definitely moved on to a loving, peaceful ‘heavenly’ dimension. It was simply their time to leave this lifetime.

    I wrote a little bit about loss and grief in the Empty Nesting blog. This article is to let you know that when we leave these physical bodies – we pass to the Spirit world where we meet with wiser beings who metaphorically hold our hand and take us on a journey into the Light. (This is different to when we become enlightened and merge with the Oneness known as God – at that stage we leave our soul and individual mind behind.)

    Reviewing the life we just left

    With these wise beings in the world of Spirit, we review the life we just lived. In my current life it would be as an English woman called Jacquie, but in another of my thousands of lifetimes I might have been a Chinese man or a Norwegian woman – and this process happens between each of our lifetimes. So, a bit like in a cinema, I would be shown my life on the big screen – warts and all – I would see the challenges I faced in this lifetime and how I dealt with them. The people I related to and what those interactions were like, and then, remembering that “time” is only a worldly concept and not a part of being in Spirit, I would choose my path for my next incarnation including who my parents will be and which challenges I want to have so I can continue to grow and heal.

    My goal is to become enlightened, so I’m trying to evolve as Jesus and Buddha did – to take two well-known souls who mastered their lives – and it is said that when we review our lives in this “cinema” or Hall of Mirrors, we are very keen to do better in our next lifetime so we can continue to achieve our goals.

    Souls that have been mentally disturbed and take their own lives, or people unexpectedly killed in accidents or by freaks of Nature are very much comforted when they pass over. We go to a place of peace because it’s only the physical world that is painful and unkind. The world of Spirit is loving and peaceful. It’s said that souls love being there but choose to reincarnate on Earth because this is such a beautiful planet. There are other dense planets where we could reincarnate – but I am going to stick with the old familiar world we inhabit at the moment!

    When Dad “died”

    When my father passed over, I knew he was comfortable about dying and we both knew where he was going, so I did not grieve his leaving (although I naturally miss him!) I was actually relieved because he had been suffering with cancer. I sent him Reiki healing for his onward journey and found myself naturally looking up into the corner of the room which is where I felt him to be, rather than at his spiritless corpse he’d left on the bed. A few months’ later, through an excellent Medium (please ask me for her details if you want them), Dad thanked me for giving him Reiki at the time of his transition, and I recommend to anyone who is attuned to Reiki to do the same thing. The Medium hadn’t known any of the details of how I dealt with my father’s passing – so it was very comforting to receive Dad’s message through her.

    “What happens when we die?”

    This was my main question when I started actively on my spiritual path in the 90s, and after many years of research and personal experience, I have the answers I was looking for. Indeed, even prior to that, in the 70s I bought a book about near death experiences (NDEs) which was full of documented accounts from people who were thought to have died but came back to life. These NDEs more often than not show people that there is definitely another dimension – the world of Spirit – and they talk about a loving place beyond our imagination. This is my experience when I connect to Holy Spirit – pure joy and Light and Love and laughter!

    So when you next experience grief, of course deal with your emotions, but with the knowledge that your loved one is not suffering anymore and is in a place of peace and love, I hope you will find it easier to grieve. I found great comfort was gained from my reading with the Medium, it really was most beneficial – which is why Mediums do that job for us.

    Do ask questions about what I’ve talked about in this blog – I’m happy to discuss anything with you!

    With love, as ever

    Jacquie

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  • My experience of Empty Nest Syndrome, Loss and Grief

    I was a single mother of two children from when they were 7 & 8 years old. We lived happily together and I kept a roof over their heads! My son left home at 24 years old, although he’d been travelling prior to that (India, Nepal and Australia), and my daughter left aged 21 but had rarely been away on her own.

    Neither of them went to university, so I’d been used to having a houseful, including the occasional boyfriend added into the mix! After they left school they both got jobs – so we were a tight unit and got on very well – mainly because we were all interested in spiritual development, as well as being generally easy going gentle folk! My daughter tells me now that I used to argue a lot with my son, but I seem to have erased any arguments from my memory!

    When the kids left home!

    When they eventually left home, I unexpectedly suffered terrible Empty Nest Syndrome! Despite knowing it was the right time for them to fly the nest and lead independent lives, and despite having heard about other mothers’ experiences, as with all emotional experiences, until we go through them ourselves they’re very hard to understand. And our hearts do not necessarily fall in line with what our heads tells us!

    To make matters worse for me, because Frances had been born in Australia, when she was 20 she went travelling Down Under, got her Australian passport and moved to Sydney permanently – 12,000 miles across the world! She didn’t just move up the road or to the next town, but to Australia, which for me was the beginning of a nightmare of loss and grief that I was completely unprepared for.

    To compound that loss, four months later my son resigned from his job in, got himself an Australian Working Visa and joined his sister in the Australian sunshine! Now, I was brought up overseas and have travelled extensively, but I’d never been on the other end of the see-saw before. I had, however, been sent to boarding school at the age of seven, the effects of which were abandonment, and the kids both now “abandoning” me, albeit in a very different way, now started to surface which I had to deal with at the same time. Grief, loss and abandonment.

    The reason I’m detailing this is to explain how, after years of having my kids in my home, I was feeling absolutely bereft! So, if you’re experiencing loss and grief, I can empathise and hopefully give you some useful ideas as to hoe to cope. The enormity of the closest two people in the world moving 12,000 miles’ away really hit me hard, and this was in the early 2000s before Facebook! Skype was in its infancy and there weren’t smart phones so FaceTime hadn’t been dreamt up back then! All making communications very hard indeed – Frances had to go to a public telephone box to call home and the time difference didn’t help either! Some say the world’s a smaller place because of technology and air travel, but in practical terms, the loss of a loved one to another country where you can’t hug them can’t be replaced.

    Loss and Grief

    Empty nesting is quite simply the term for loss and grief when the chicks fly the nest. In reality I felt desperately lonely, missed them terribly – I found it hard initially to even go into my daughter’s bedroom. Another friend told me that when her eldest daughter left to go to university, she would go into her bedroom and cry her eyes out. If you’re suffering now – you are definitely not alone.

    Twenty years is a long time for a mother to bond with her children, and whether you’re married or not, it can be a great loss when they leave home. Obviously everyone’s experiences of Empty Nesting are different – but many of us suffer at this time – Dads as well as Mums!

    Luckily, with the advent of the Internet we can now share our experiences, and this is what I’m doing in this blog. Knowledge and planning can help us to prepare for these experiences.

    I was single when they left home and as I didn’t live near my family, I think I not only suppressed my emotions but I didn’t really know what I was experiencing – and eventually I had a nervous breakdown. But you don’t have to!

    So, for any parent preparing for their children to leave home, I offer the following:

    1. Busy and active! Keep yourself as fully occupied as possible. Be this with your work, your hobbies and interests or your social life – wider family and friends. Later in life I’ve realised how important “community” is to me – be it a drama group, a gardening club, an exercise class or meditation group – meeting regularly with people with similar interests and values as me, is very beneficial.
    2. Talk! Speak to a Counsellor to help you with any unusual emotions. It’s much better to express your emotions and talk it all through with someone who’s objective. Family and friends can be supportive but they tend to have biased points of view, so a trained Counsellor or Psychotherapist can be of great help. Even if you “don’t think I’m that bad”, it’s worth it.
    3. Communication. Prior to your children leaving, talk to them about this and make plans to keep in touch with them on a regular basis. Explain to them that although they’ll be starting a new life with lots of do, remind them that you love them and want them to have a great time, but that a regular phone call, email or text message will make all the difference to you.
    4. Proper Prior Planning Prevents Piss Poor Performance! Therefore, also make a Family Plan when you will next see them and whether this will become a regular meeting. Having something to look forward to, to do together is really important – so put something in your diary!
    5. Meditate. Learn how to still your mind and find an inner peace – prior to them leaving home! Meditation might seem daunting at first, but it is easy to learn and really calms our minds, which is a lovely way to learn to be happy on your own, whatever happens in life and whether you’re married or not.

    That list wasn’t in any order of priority, but I’d put Learn and Practise Meditation as the most important thing to do. At one point or another in our lives we will all suffer loss; whether it’s caused by a relationship breakdown, divorce, redundancy, kids leaving home or the death of a pet, a close friend or member of your family – it’s a guaranteed part of life. So, by practising meditation it can bring us to a place where our minds are calm and vital questions will be answered for us. Ultimately, through meditation, we can create an understanding about the reality of us leaving this Earth plane, which can help us deal with the fear of death and other losses.

    If you have any questions or comments, please leave them below.

    With love, as ever

    Jacquie

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  • Do you feel overwhelmed? Are you depressed?

    I expect, wherever you’re reading this in the world, you’ve experienced self-isolation and social distancing during Lockdown. Vocabulary that wasn’t in use prior to the 2020 corona virus pandemic!

    Whatever your state of mind prior to the last few months, if you’re anything like me, I expect you’ve had some fearful thoughts, unusual emotions and changes in your mood. Have you ever considered where these thoughts come from? Over the years I’ve developed a spiritual thought-based practice that helps me to feel peaceful in upsetting moments of overwhelm, and this practice is available for us all. It’s called Forgiveness.

    Since I completed Master of Metaphysics courses in 2005, and even after I’d started teaching metaphysics myself, I had a nervous or psychological breakdown. It was a shock to my system because I “knew the theory”, but I still had my deep healing to do, which I eventually did and my breakdown led to a healing breakthrough and joyous re-awakening.

    I’d learnt about the ego’s thought system and how devious and self-sabotaging our egos can be; but it wasn’t until I went through my own Dark Night of the Soul – a place of deep loss, grief and sadness – that I was brought to my knees and either had to address my life lessons or stay in the dark forever. I discovered my main healing was around childhood abandonment – it was at this point that I really understood about our egos, so I chose the Light and learnt how to manage my ego thoughts.

    The Forgiveness practice

    I knew I had to forgive my ego’s fearful, negative thoughts that created my unhappiness, and I had to learn to communicate with Spirit because I couldn’t heal without connecting to the Light. So that became my No. 1 aim in life and I worked hard to achieve it. After a lot of personal development work I healed sufficiently to have my breakthrough in February 2018. Joy of joys!

    Having experienced these “mental health” challenges, which they are commonly referred to as, I now understand what they’re like and I empathise with people going through their darkest times. I know what it’s like to feel suicidal and to live with anxiety and fear every day, so I’m well-placed to help other people heal and find inner peace for themselves.

    I do this by teaching them about the ego belief system and their Higher Selves, and I support and guide them as to how to heal themselves with the techniques I used. This is my purpose for being on the Earth plane in this lifetime – I chose to return in this incarnation to help others do their healing work needed for their life lessons. But I had to go through it myself first! Often the biggest breakthrough comes after the hardest breakdown.

    I teach metaphysics to people wanting to discover their Truth and to find inner peace – you don’t have to suffer from depression, but this is a trigger for many people at the moment. The good news is that more and more souls are re-awakening at the moment, which is fantastic!

    Healing Techniques

    My breakdown spanned over a decade in which time I had counselling as well as going down the conventional medical route for a while. I employed healing tools such as EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique), relaxation, meditation, and a brilliant thought practice called Forgiveness, as taught in A Course in Miracles.

    Over the years I have learnt to communicate with Spirit, which has become a wonderful 24/7 connection. I’ve formed a daily habit of forgiving and releasing every upset I have, and I believe this was what finally gave me the peace I sought. It was pretty miraculous when my depression suddenly ended. Rather than a slow-burn lifting, the anxiety just went one day and a new-found joy came flooding back into my mind and life!

    Now, although my deepest fears have gone – and I’ve forgiven one hell of a lot – I continually use this practice a few times a day for anything that comes up which upsets me – from stubbing my toe on the bed to seeing a magpie swooping down to catch a chick in my garden – yes this just happened! But I can release any upset now so it doesn’t get stuck in my mind. I study A Course in Miracles daily to re-mind myself of Who I really am, not a human experiencing this pandemic but part of Spirit dreaming this illusion and knowing that I simply have to re-awaken to the fact that I never left God – none of us have.

    We are pure love; we are divine beings! Spirit is here for us all the time and we can all learn to communicate with them, forming a relationship with Spirit as a friend. This is key to creating a happy life for ourselves here on Earth because they help us to work towards our enlightenment.

    Relationship with Spirit

    I trained with ascended master Maitreya who told us he didn’t ask to be called Master and that we gave him that title. He said we don’t need to put him or any spiritual teachers on a pedestal. So, be normal when you talk to Spirit! We are all in this together, sharing our wisdom with anyone who wants to learn the spiritual development techniques that we’ve discovered work successfully. Gratitude for our teachers is all that’s needed. These spiritual relationships are not about being “religious” in the traditional sense, but about being authentic. Spirit knows what we’re thinking anyway and really is our friend!

    Please leave a comment or get in touch on the Contact Form if you’re interested in learning more, whether it be to help you out of a difficult time now, or whether you’re living with anxiety and experiencing a turbulent mind in any way. It doesn’t have to last forever, although I know it can sometimes feel like you’ll never get through it! Be kind to yourself and stay strong.

    Have an inspiring June!

    With love, as ever

    Jacquie

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  • Mind Body Spirit

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    You’ve probably heard it said that this life is “an illusion”, a “dream”, and that we are here in physical form for one reason and one reason only, and that’s to learn our lessons, to heal and evolve? It’s an illusion because our only true home is in God. But while we’re here in the physical world we’ve been given energy to work with, so that we can heal and become enlightened. How cool is that?!

    I’m a firm believer in ‘Mind Body Spirit’ – the three are integral to our lives. It’s like the Holy Trinity – three in One! The thoughts in our minds affect our bodies, and Spirit holds everything together and sees us through this complicated thing we call life! I’m going to consider the three components:-

    MIND

    Journalling, or ‘writing my diary’ which I’ve done since I was a teenager, is an excellent way to process our thoughts and feelings, and a great way to keep an ongoing check on what’s going on in our minds. If ever you’re feeling confused, it helps to write it down.

    I usually write my diary first thing in the morning, before I get up. Over the years I’ve found my best inspiration comes to me first thing in the morning, often so quickly that I have to scrabble around for a pen and paper to write it down! Some days I’m brimming with ideas but on others, if I’m not, I simply write my thoughts and feelings about what’s happening in my life – it always helps to get it out of my head and onto paper.

    It’s really helpful to distinguish our ego thoughts – the endless chatter – as opposed to the messages we receive from Spirit. When it was first explained to me – I was incredulous that our ego had an agenda of its own! And I’ve since had the experience that my ego doesn’t like me exploring my mind and connecting to Spirit – our egos want to keep us stuck on the Earth plane!

    BODY

    In our restrictive physical bodies, it is super important that we maintain our health and have a good level of fitness so we’re in the best of health to study mind-training and practice our spiritual connection. Therefore, having regular energy healings is an important way to look after the Body part of this much-used phrase – Mind Body Spirit!

    Once learnt, I think the Spirit element is the easiest because who hasn’t sneaked a piece of candy or chocolate today? Even though you knew you didn’t really want to because it was unhealthy?! Who hasn’t done enough exercise? Well, me, that’s for sure! This is why I find the Body element reasonably hard to remain disciplined in. There’s a lot of temptation out there!

    And for me, the Mind element means regular study, practise and catching my thoughts all the time so I don’t lose my (usually good!) temper and become irritable with my loved ones – especially hard during the Lockdown when we’re living in such close quarters!

    SPIRIT

    Back in the ’90s I was an enthusiastic spiritual seeker, reading everything I could lay my hands on to explain the unknown …  the “Great Mystery”. I’d practised Buddhism for a few years and attending metaphysics courses that really opened my eyes and mind to amazing possibilities. Since then, I’ve listened to my thoughts and have learnt to distinguish the two thought sources; I’ve also learnt not to be ruled by my ego’s beliefs anymore but rather to listen to Spirit’s guidance.

    It took lots of listening and distinguishing the two sources, plus me trusting that I would one day succeed in making the distinction. Inspiration and messages from Spirit always come to me from a certain angle, above my head. That sounds odd now I’ve written it, but it’s how it seems to me! And it will be different for everyone, because thoughts can’t be actually placed in a physical place!

    So, do we really understand the spiritual connection to Spirit? In the early days of my seeking I didn’t, even though I was taught how to channel, I found it hard to trust what I was being given. But that early training stood me in good stead and I slowly gained confidence and realised that Spirit was really talking to me – communicating telepathically – dropping words into my mind, initially for me to give readings for others but now all the time, and how exciting was that to discover!

    I can now hear telepathic messages from Spirit, especially in answer to questions I ask. Channelling is a skill we can all learn and I teach people how to channel on my courses.

    Many spiritual seekers have understood asking Spirit for what we want to mean only for manifesting material things, but Spirit will answer all of our questions – even giving us more “time” in our day if we need it! Some books on manifesting are all about getting what we think we want in the world – usually big houses, cars, etc, and although there’s nothing wrong with that, they won’t ultimately give us the peace we’re seeking.

    Holy Spirit is the Voice for God and the link to our Divinity – Spirit gently guides us to awaken. I think it’s the easiest of the three Mind Body Spirit elements because in the long-term it turns out to be the easiest, and it’s so amazing that you’ll just want to do it more and more, all through the day. In A Course in Miracles, Jesus teaches that we can “ask” for every single decision we make, even the smallest, because Holy Spirit will always set us straight, and if we rely on our own decisions we are likely to make ego-led mistakes.

    THREE in ONE!

    I hope you’re managing to enjoy some mindfulness, that you’re eating healthily and giving your body some daily exercise, and connecting to Spirit at every opportunity – I love helping people understand how to listen to their thoughts on my courses. It can be mind-blowing!

    All this leads us to remember Who We Really Are. That we are not separate from God, but while experiencing physicality we use what we can in the world to undo our ego beliefs, learn to hear Spirit and evolve!

    Please do leave a comment!

    Here to serve,

    Jacquie

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